Choosing the type of language you should use in your communication.

Before you communicate, think about:

1. Is it likely to make the other person feel safe or scared?
2. Does it make you more or less like the partner and father you want to be?
3. If it were filmed and played on YouTube, how would it make you look?

Alternatively ask yourself:

Is what I’m about to do or say going to move me toward being the best person I can be or away from the best person I can be?

Deepen your understanding

Think about what you identify as your most important values and ask yourself if your communication is consistent with expressing those values and moving toward the best person you can be.

Print out the Handout No. 15 – Respect Test document below and think about whether your language and actions are respectful.